I am a ritual designer and officiant, and founder of the Center for Ritual Design.
I work with individuals and groups to create personally meaningful rituals for all major life transitions.
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Everyone goes through major life transitions. We wouldn't be alive without them!
(OK technically we might be able to walk, talk, and go through the motions, but our lives would have little or no joy -- let alone sense of meaning or purpose.)
Transitions, whether they are joyous transitions like becoming a parent or getting a new job, or negative ones like losing a loved one or dealing with major illness -- are defining moments for our character.
Transitions force us to let go of our old lives and develop skills to embrace the new.
This can be exhilarating!
It can also completely and utterly suck.
Today, we must manage all of this amid surging Covid cases, the "code red for humanity" climate crisis, racial injustice, gender wars, and a patriarchy in great denial. This backdrop of turmoil only amplifies the uncertainty and fear.
I have been a ritual practitioner for 25 years. The last 3 years -- like so many of us -- have presented several major life transitions of my own. Some were my idea (leaving a great job to pursue the research for this transition work), and many weren't (several family health crises in rapid sequence).
It was almost as though the universe said, "Oh, so you want to help people through transitions, do you? Well, here you go..."
The upside of all of this, of course, was it gave me first-hand experience dealing with a lot of really devastating transitions. As a mechanism to help myself from spiraling into deep depression, I practiced using these to develop and test out my theory that rites of passage and ritual might be updated with evidence-based practices to help modern people in life transition. Once things got a little more stable, I prototyped it and tested and prototyped some more.
Today, I work with clients in-person and remotely to use rites of passage and ritual as a healing and powerful tool that strengthens our connection to ourselves and helps us make meaning out of our losses.
How does it work?
First, we chat about your transition and see if it feels like a fit. If so, then we'll go through a five step process.
1) Discovery: We go through a deeper dive into your transition. I ask a lot of questions about you and what you want, as well as what is getting in your way. I listen. You talk. I share some suggestions.
2) Design: Based on what you've told me, I share some suggestions. You share more ideas. This is a super collaborative phase. We will create a plan for a ritual that is not only meaningful but also uses brain science to create better cognitive conditions for integrating your ritual experience.
3) Liminality: This is the act of doing your ritual, per the design above. I can officiate as part of my services, someone else can, or your can do it on your own.
4) Reflection: After you're done, you will review how it went, what you learned, and how you might create a small daily ritual that helps you integrate this learning into your daily life.
5) Integration: This is the practice of enacting that daily ritual to support your intentions.
The entire process can take anywhere from 2 weeks to 3 months depending on the scope. I am available to help you produce your event as well as officiate.
I welcome any and all inquiries. Please email me at CenterForRitualDesign AT gmail DOT com for a free 30-minute consultation.